Self-esteem is a huge topic in the media these days. It seems like there’s another movement popping up everyday.
Love your body, love your looks, love your choices.
Why is it such a big deal?
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According to Dr. Joe Rubino, who created the Self-Esteem program, 85% of the worlds population suffers from low self-esteem issues. These issues are linked to everything from depression, gang violence, teen pregnancy, drug and alcohol abuse, and suicide.
85% is a HUGE number, and this is a massive issue.
The purpose of this article is not to tell you to love yourself, however. That’s too easy, and you know as well as I do that you can’t tell someone to feel something they don’t.
The purpose of this article is to give you some tools to learn how to do it yourself. Only when you are ready to take your self-image into your own hands, will you see any real progress.
I’ve put together a list of five super powerful things you can do on a daily basis, to help you start to feel better about yourself right away.
Some of it might seem silly. Some of it might feel like it’s too hard. You very well may drag up some serious raw emotions while you’re doing these exercises, but this is good!! It means you are starting the first step to healing. Only when you discover these emotions, can you begin to understand yourself a little better.
Stare into the Mirror
Tell yourself you are, beautiful, strong, smart, worthy, or whatever it is that you’ve been needing to hear. Then, allow yourself to believe it.
Pull out your phone or egg timer, or whatever you have, and do this for five minutes each day, for as many days in a row as it takes. It really does work after a little while. I’ve used this same tactic myself.
Use a Mantra
A mantra is a word, sentence, or string of sentences that you whisper to yourself over and over again for positive results. What you are essentially doing with a mantra, is retraining your brain to think in a more positive way. Often the negative things we hear from outside sources, play non-stop in our heads, and this is what causes our low self-esteem. I call these negative tapes. You are trying to do the same thing with a mantra, but in a positive way.
Find a sentence, or a few of them that mean something very personal to you. Recite it 50 to 100 times a day. What works for me is, “You are strong. You are beautiful. You are smart, and you are worthy.” These were all things I needed to believe for myself, and so I would repeat them daily.
Mala prayer beads are excellent for this, because you can hold onto a bead every time you recite your mantra, and move through your 100 or so verses very easily.
Saying them in the car on the way to and from work is also a great way to start and end your day. Make sure you feel every sentence in your heart, otherwise you’re just reciting a bunch of meaningless words.
Remember in school, when you got in trouble and had to write “I will not kick Jimmy,” a hundred times until you got the message? This may have seemed redundant then, but there’s actually a science to this. When you write things out, you retain the information a lot more than reading or hearing it.
Write your mantra out instead of reciting it in your head. Believe it every time you write it. You’ll start to believe it.
Get Dressed Up
This may sound silly, but when we get all dressed or dolled up, we get a huge confidence boost. Often when we don’t feel good about ourselves we have a tendency to ditch the makeup routines, or forget to brush our hair, or grab the easiest, most comfortable outfit we can find.
Take the time to pick out a nice outfit, style your hair, and put the makeup on, and do it often. This works for both men and women alike. We feel so much better about ourselves, and have a better outlook all day when we do this. It’s an act of self-love, and can be very powerful.
Stand Up for Yourself or Walk Away
This is probably the hardest one, but it can be the most beneficial. Most, if not all of our self-esteem issues come from our environment. This means, friends, family, other school kids, co-workers, and the media all play a huge part in how we feel about ourselves.
While we can’t necessarily tell the media off by ourselves, we can do something about the other sources of our low self-esteem.
Friends and family are hard to stand up to, because we want their love and support. Unfortunately if they are the ones causing our struggle, this can make it a very tricky situation for us. It is also harder to overcome, because they’re the ones we are supposed to be able to trust the most.
You do have a right to your own happiness, however, and you can speak up for yourself. If the people around you choose not to listen to how you feel, then it’s best you walk away from them. You don’t need that negativity in your new and healthier life.
Again, this is harder for family, or co-workers, whom you are forced to be around all day, every day. If it’s not an option at all, then you are going to have to learn to live with blinders on.
Understand that when someone puts you down, it’s most likely not about you at all. It is almost always because that person feels very badly about themselves, and they want you to be miserable, like them. Learn how to tune it out, and you’ll feel much happier.
There you have it! There are your five powerful self-esteem boosters.
All of these things take time and effort.
They won’t work overnight, but a repeated use of one or all of them will have you seeing results. You will start to feel happier, and more confident in yourself.
Rinse and repeat.
Use these tricks every time you start to feel a little down on yourself. New stages of life come with new challenges, and new ways to feel negative about yourself, but you’ve got knowledge on your side, and you CAN use these tools to help you work through it faster.
I believe in you, you’ve got this!
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Also, be on the lookout for my “Targeting Your Fears Workbook.” I’ll be dropping it in the end of July. I literally hold your hand in these journal prompt exercises, while we figure out what it is that you’re afraid of, and why it’s holding you back from the life you truly deserve!!
In the meantime, stay courageous my friends!