Why Lasting Success Requires Shadow Work

Shadow Work is the single most important thing you can do for lasting success. You can’t truly succeed in a career, business, or life if you don’t do some form of it.

You will keep repeating your self-sabotaging behavior over and over until you understand where it comes from and why you do it.

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First, what is Shadow Work?

It’s the process of uncovering the root reasons for emotional triggers and self destructive behavior.

As we grow up, things like traumatic events, and societal and parental conditioning shape the lenses we view the world through.

They inevitably cause triggers and bad behaviors in us, based on how we’ve learned to deal will these events and opinions.

One of the biggest things I see time and time again is the belief that there has to be limitations or conditions on our personal success.

I can tell you all day long that there aren’t any limitations, but you won’t believe me, because you’ve been conditioned to believe otherwise.

BTW, just a little FYI…..

The Universe will create whatever your picture of success looks like, as long as you believe it will, and your emotional vibrations match that of your dream.

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What I mean by this, is that you have to first know what your picture of lasting success looks like. Then, you have to imagine what it would feel like to experience this life.

You have to really feel it. Think about every little detail, and let it make you happy. The happiness and weightlessness you feel, along with the certainty it is going to happen, is the vibration you need to match on a consistent basis.

Not everyone can do this however, and that’s where Shadow Work comes in.

Find the time to think about why you believe you can’t have the things you want.

Has life been consistently difficult for you? Do you believe it will always be so?

Are you letting your parents be in control of your future? (I.e. they’re picking your career, or your schooling. They’ve decided for you what success looks like.)

Does your religion/friends/school tell you what success is supposed to look like?

Think really hard about all of these things. It’s important to figure this out, because you will consistently fail, or be miserable if you’re living a life someone else told you to.

Once you come up with the answer, then comes the hard part.

InnerTalk: Change has never been easier!

You need to unlearn it. Whatever ideas you have about lasting success that aren’t jiving with who you truly are, need to disappear from your thought patterns.

It can be just as hard as kicking a habit. Some people get it right away, others need to try and try again.


But first, let me hit you with some new truths.

  1. Difficult times are important. They help shape you into the person you are today. They can help you grow and become a much wiser person. We cannot become the best version of ourselves if we never experience anything difficult. No diamonds without pressure, right?
  2. Your parents/school/religion/friends all meant well. They really do want the best for you, generally. However, all of their well meaning advice is missing an important piece of information. It’s missing your soul. Only your soul knows who you truly are. What’s good for your mom may not be the same thing that’s good for you. She’s a completely different person from you. Understand? Listen to what your inner voice is telling you. It knows best, who you are.


Being successful won’t work if you don’t know what your soul’s version of lasting success looks like.


Say that your best friend has always coveted fast, expensive cars. You might have grown up thinking this is what success looks like simply from your friends opinion. It is true in a way, It’s what your best friend’s success looks like, but it may not be what yours looks like.

Your soul may think that lasting success looks like an SUV, and a happy family. Chasing after the shiny car won’t make you feel successful if that’s the case. If you go after the car, you’ll be left feeling empty.

Learn to separate other people’s opinions and versions of success from your own. The only way to do this is through trial and error, if you don’t already know.

Lasting success is made up of tons of different parts. Things like possessions, experiences, people, and career are all a part of the grand picture.

When you stumble onto one of these things it will feel like peace, and excitement all rolled into one. That’s how you know you’ve found a piece of your personal success puzzle.

The universe has a way of sending you little tests, just to see if you’ve truly gotten your puzzle right, and changed your thought patterns.

Be on the lookout for how you handle these events. It can tell you if your really making progress or not.

If you’re bringing things into your life that you don’t get enjoyment from, then you need to reassess. If you’re still spiraling downward every time something doesn’t go how you wanted to, then your thought patterns need adjustment again.

Like I’ve said before, it can take a few times to really get it right. Once you do have it down pat though, the world is your oyster.

For a recap:

1.Figure out your own personal lasting success puzzle. What things/people/career/experiences make you feel like life is really good?

2. Believe you can have these things with your whole being, and consistently match the emotional vibration having this life would feel like. Hint: (it’s usually joy, peace, gratitude, and contentment.)

3. Rinse and repeat. You can do this as many times as you want to.

I hope this has helped in some way.

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Also, if you need a few exercises to help you move on from your past, be on the lookout for the “7 Step Challenge: Let Go of Your Past Workbook.”

It will be dropping into my Etsy store next week!

Stay Courageous Friends,

Love Courtney

InnerTalk: Change has never been easier!